My pity party πŸ˜”


Reader, last week I hit a mental low.

One of my closest friends packed up her life and moved 15 hours away.

Even though I know we will remain friends, I am feeling deeply sad to lose the spontaneous hangout in person opportunities.

Her presence got me through one of the toughest times I have faced. She matters to me.

So in this state of sadness, Miranda (my inner critic) decides it's the perfect time to call me out as completely inadequate, pointing to my failure to be further in my business growth plans.

I am not going to lie, I was having my Sadness, puddle on the floor moment.

I am not convinced Miranda is right, but I know that I have the capacity to change.

I reach out to my business coach with a heads up that I want to discuss this during our weekly call.

As I am writing the text message, I catch myself talking about what isn't happening that is creating my angst.

I pause.

I don't need my coach to validate my feelings. I need my coach to help me find my next gear and move forward.

Reader, I don't know if I am moving to slow or at the perfect speed.

I know I lack patience and have a strong high achiever personality that doesn't like to fail.

My sadness and existential crisis about my work is my hand on the hot stove wake up call.

It's vital information reminding me that I care about making a meaningful impact with my work and that I may need tto challenge myself to move beyond my comfort zone to be successful.

Reader, I am sharing this with you because the next time you are doubting yourself and feeling like a failure, I want you to remember that you get to choose how you frame the situation.

Here's my frame:

I am not failing or inadequate, I am in the middle of becoming.

I don't get to control everything, but I get to ask how I can accelerate my progress.

Shame and guilt have no place here because learning and growing are imperfect by nature.

Thank you Reader for being an early supporter of my work.

I see you and want you to know that you inspire me to keep striving for more.

If you see me too, drop me a πŸ‘‹ or share this with a friend or family member that needs this reminder.

Cheers to us!

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​Episode 1 with Karen Laos: Are You Enough? Finding your inner power

​Episode 2 with Gail Kraft: Is Your Fear of Abandonment Running the Show?

​Episode 3 with Sandra Adeyeye Bello: Am I Worth It? A question too many are afraid to answer

​Episode 4 with Leslie Minchin: Are You Busy or Just Avoiding Your Life?

​Episode 5 with Srivatsan Aravamudan: Broken, Dirty, Not Enough? The journey to self-acceptance

​Episode 6 with Vivian Blade: How Do I Say "I Lost My Job?"

​Episode 7 with Angie Redmon: Who Am I Letting Down? The hidden cost

​Episode 8 with Debbie Potts: I Refuse to Settle: Rewriting my story after a life-changing diagnosis

​Episode 9 with Tandra Price: Can I Do That? Unleashing your inner power

​Episode 10 with Ronda Berns: Am I the Prey? Overcoming fear and mastering sales

​Episode 11 with Carmen Alvarez: Can Joy and Grief Really Co-exist?

​Episode 12 with Melissa Robinson Hussain: Who Do You Want to Be? Coaching Yourself to Radical Transformation

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Rita Ernst, Positivity Influencer

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